10 Practical Tips from a Psychologist for Changing Permanent Residence

Have you ever moved? It is known that even changing a rented apartment is quite a significant stress for a person. This is very expensive both in terms of nerve cells and time, not to mention additional financial costs. After such changes, you have to recover for some time, adapt, and get used to a new place. What can we say about a more serious event in life — a change of permanent residence! Your life will be easier if you address part of your moving to professionals. Check moving company reviews and ask for a Moving Quote. Expenses are always disappointing but using nowadays tools like approximate moving cost calculator or numerous apps will help you to plan and even save your money.

In this article, we will not consider the reasons that prompted you to take such a drastic step — this is a personal matter. We will talk about how you can transfer such stress as painlessly as possible and adapt to the new reality in the most effective way. So, what should be considered and how to prepare for a change of permanent residence?

Fear of unknown when moving

Removing the fear of the unknown is one of the most powerful fears that a human being experiences. Imagine that you do not know anything about what you are going to do when planning this or that business. Where can you get confidence in the process of implementing your idea? To gain confidence and control your fear, you need to have a clear idea of what you will do first when you find yourself in a new environment. Think about where you will live and what you will do. How will you position yourself when making new contacts? Support yourself, tune in to the idea that your resources are enough to cope with all the difficulties. In this case, the settings “My world takes care of me”, “I have everything going in the most favorable way for me”, “I am confident in myself and in my abilities” are suitable. Instead of giving yourself up to fear, repeat these formulas of self-adjustment clearly and confidently aloud or in your mind.

Scroll through the images of yourself in the future that inspire you. The most important thing is self—belief. In any case, you will have a very interesting life experience, and your future depends on how you approach it. Remember that on the quantum level, you and the universe are inextricably linked, so what you order is what you get. Experienced people suggest that it is very important to enlist the support of those who live in the country, city, or area where you are planning to move. They know the characteristics that are not written about in guidebooks and dictionaries, as well as not mentioned in embassies and consulates. Make sure that your move does not fall into a complete void — prepare the ground in advance. Even if you do not have any friends or relatives in your new place, you can find people in social networks, forums, and chats who will tell you the necessary information and agree to help you on the spot. Act, prepare, search and you will be lucky!

Check and plan when moving

When planning a move, a very important help in the upcoming cultural adaptation will be a preliminary introduction to the history, geography, and culture of your chosen country. (It is assumed that you have already learned the language or are actively learning it at least at the initial level). Read what Google offers you, chat with real people, and watch available videos posted in torrents and on the pages of local residents. In addition, such activities will involve you, help you fill the places in your soul and consciousness that are usually occupied by all sorts of fears, fears, negative thoughts, and experiences. Imagine that you are a citizen of the world, for whom moving to another country is an integral part of life. Act as a strategist and you will be able to find many happy moments in the planning of such a serious turn in life as a change of permanent residence.

Training when moving

Dosed daily physical activity will help your brain cope with the excessive experiences caused by preparing to move to unfamiliar places. Learn yoga exercises, take a walk in the fresh air every day, go to the gym, ride roller skates, or bike. Even if you’ve never done it — at least try it! The fact is that stress is deposited in our body in the form of blocks and clamps, which you will have to get rid of in a new place, to be treated. And who knows how your body will react when you reach your critical level? And in the new place, there is no family doctor, a favorite masseur, a familiar therapist… Take responsibility for your well-being now! We get rid of debts and bindings.

By the time you finally leave, make sure that there is no one left behind who can remember you with a bad word. Makeup with the person you were at odds with, especially if it’s one of your relatives. Pay your debts to those who expect them from you. Visit people you haven’t seen in a long time. Forgive those you hold a grudge against. Give away all unnecessary things, give away what will be an extra load on the way. Throw away or burn anything that brings up sad or painful memories. In short, make it easier for yourself to travel a long way and leave behind an impeccable “personal history”. And may your path be easy!

We get rid of bad habits. Of course, you are an adult and you are well aware of what is harming you. And if you don’t know, you can guess. When we talk about habits, we don’t just mean common ones like smoking tobacco or drinking beer in the evenings with friends. Carefully evaluate how you eat, how you are used to dressing, what you do in the evenings, how you spend the weekend, what you prefer to watch or listen to. Patterns of behavior that have been fixed over the years can play a cruel joke on you when you break away from the roots and take root in a strange environment for you. It’s time to rid your mind of patterns of behavior that will not bring you any advantages where no one knows you.

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Think also about the fact that satisfying your habits in a foreign country may cost you too much, both literally and figuratively. We strengthen our self-esteem. Since no one has ever heard of you in the places where you are going to go for permanent residence, you can hardly expect the level of respect and affection that you are used to at home. The habit people seem to reject them, they do not want to be considered, not take over those, and in “validating…”. Such a relationship among strangers doesn’t hurt you, you should tune in to the intrinsic value, which every person possesses.

Make a list of your achievements, victories, and achievements. Remember those qualities that you respect and appreciate in yourself. Allow yourself to be yourself, and others to be others, you do not need to take to heart someone’s coldness and indifference. Show genuine interest in those who are close to you and soon you will be answered in the same way.

Remember: what’s inside is outside! We take care of our relatives and friends. It’s one thing if you take such a responsible step as changing permanent residence alone. It is quite different if the lives and destinies of your loved ones are connected with you. Husband/wife, child, relative … substitute the correct option yourself. Then the responsibility increases doubly, especially if you are the initiator of such an important event as moving to another country. In this case, you need to play the role of a family of Warner, the mastermind, psychologist, and commander in one person. Ideally, if your decision is supported by all your family and friends — you are a happy person! If there is confusion and vacillation in your ranks, you will have to pay special attention to each of those who depend on you. In this case, it is good to be aware of what arguments are suitable for the child, what exactly to say to an adult. Keep in mind that it is important for you to be in a state of maximum confidence in the success of your company, to feel reliable support for those who are full of doubts and say only that “we are well fed here” and “it is good where we are not”.

 Remember: you need unity of mind and community in such a difficult event as changing permanent residence in the family. We develop inner firmness and awareness. In the period between the decision to move and the immediate departure to your chosen area, you must clearly remember what you started it all for. If you have a “for”, you can stand any “how”. Take these words of Nietzsche as your daily motto. In principle, a person is very adaptive and adapts to any conditions-tested by time and hundreds of generations.

You can survive in a concentration camp, escape in the ocean or the taiga if you have the will to live and an immutable sense of what you are doing it for. If you are aware, then no one’s words of doubt, excuses, or the terrified eyes of those who care about you can stop you. In any case, you always have more than one way out of the situation, just be firm and adamant. We are not in a hurry to burn bridges.

No matter how far you are thrown by fate, no matter how deep the despair that pushes you on a long journey, always leave yourself a thread by which you can go back. Know that you can’t anticipate everything! Life changes, situations change. If you were defeated yesterday, then tomorrow you will be back on the horse. Reserve the right to choose the best in your life. Even if the choice to change permanent residence now seems final and irrevocable, in the future, you can make a different decision. Therefore, take measures to ensure that you have somewhere and to whom to return. Let your friends, not your enemies, wait for you. I hope you understand what I mean.